In spite of what Sex and the City may have tried to convince you, vibrators aren’t just for those solo sessions you indulge in while canceling your social plans or the tools of an especially raunchy escapade—and they’re certainly not just a tool for anyone young and single.

The bed frame that creeks even when you’re just sleeping and the sheets that overheat when more than one person is under them do nothing good for your sex life. Luckily, these factors are easy to fix.

When the heat of the moment leads you to the bedroom, that change in scenery should improve your intimacy—but the space where the magic happens isn’t always quite so magical.

Here are some recommendations for how to use a wand vibrator to have an splendid orgasm.